Dealing With Loneliness When Work Ceases For Christmas

For many people, the Christmas break can be a time of joy and celebration, of families coming together to share the extravagance of over indulgence. However, for others, it can feel particularly isolating when work has ended and the normal everyday routine has disappeared. Not everyone has a family and not everyone has close friends. Some may have family but for various reasons, relationships may be difficult or perhaps even severed altogether and of course, nowadays people are scattered all over the world so distance can also play a part in isolating people, especially at this time of year. Of course, there are those who enjoy being alone and thrive in their own company over Christmas!

Statistics show that around 36% of people feel they are too embarrassed to admit that Christmas is a time of loneliness for them. Finishing work and heading home for Christmas is in stark contrast to the often busy and noisy working environment. Days filled with emails, phone calls and a variety of colleagues and clients are replaced by quiet and sometimes empty hours. For some, the stillness can be unsettling, magnifying feelings of loneliness as the absence of daily interactions and purpose sets in. It can feel as though the world has paused in silence while others are busy celebrating with loved ones.

Staying connected in some way to the outside world is vital and while it may appear very tempting to feel unwanted, unloved and therefore retreat, do reach out to any family or friends, a simple phone call or message can be uplifting but if this is not possible then bear in mind that community groups often organise festive events that aim to combat loneliness. Additionally, there are many volunteering opportunities at this time of year where you can make new connections and gain a sense of purpose while helping others.

Churches are open over Christmas time and you certainly do not have to be religious or even have a faith to attend. You will find that as well as offering a variety of interesting and often poignant services, there’s always the offer of a mince pie and a chat afterwards.

Dogs still need to be walked over Christmas and from personal experience, most dog walkers are happy to stop and chat even on Christmas Day. If you don’t have a dog, think about signing up to one of the many companies who arrange for dogs to be cared for in people’s homes as an alternative to kennels while their owners are away or busy. Not only will you make some extra money, you will certainly be kept busy, looking after a furry friend or two over Christmas.

If the thought of Christmas Day itself feels daunting then try to plan it in advance with things that make you happy. Whether it is a festive film, cooking food that you like, reading or dedicating the day to a hobby you enjoy, anything that will bring meaning to the day and make it feel less empty.

Finally, do not hesitate to seek professional help if feeling lonely becomes overwhelming. There are numerous helplines and online support networks, (such as the Samaritans and Shout who are available 24/7) where you can talk with people who fully understand.